The Top 10 Distinctions Between Winners and Whiners

Preface vii

A Note on the Order of the Distinctions xi

Distinction 10 Winners take responsibility. Whiners play the victim 1

Distinction 9 Winners can have what they want. Whiners want what they cannot have 11

Distinction 8 Winners find a way. Whiners find an excuse 21

Distinction 7 Winners brighten a room by entering. Whiners brighten a room by leaving 29

Distinction 6 Winners listen twice as much as they talk. Whiners talk twice as much as they listen 39

Distinction 5 Winners enjoy life’s journeys. Whiners put their joy in the destinations 49

Distinction 4 Winners build friendships. Whiners destroy friendships 59

Distinction 3 Winners think big. Whiners think small 69

Distinction 2 Winners are focus-minded. Whiners are scatterbrained 77

Distinction 1 Winners create positive meanings. Whiners create negative meanings 85

What Now? 93