How to Listen so Parents Will Talk and Talk so Parents Will Listen

Case Examples ix

Preface xi

Part One: Understanding And Being With Parents

Chapter One

A Way of Being With Parents 3

Chapter Two

Preparing Yourself to Work Effectively With Parents 17

Chapter Three

What Parents Want: A Model for Understanding Adult Influence 33

Part Two: Strategies For Working With Parents

Chapter Four

From Initial Contact to Assessment: Building and Maintaining a Working Relationship With Parents 57

Chapter Five

Collaborative Problem Formulation 75

Chapter Six

Creating and Providing Guidance, Advice, and Solutions 93

Part Three: Practical Techniques For Parenting Challenges

Chapter Seven

Teaching Relationship-Based Interventions to Parents 113

Chapter Eight

Sharing Power to Gain Influence: Indirect and Problem-Solving Interventions 133

Chapter Nine

A New-and-Improved Behaviorism: Child-Friendly but Direct Approaches to Discipline 153

Chapter Ten

Ongoing Contact, Complications, and Referrals 177

Chapter Eleven

Dealing With Special Situations and Issues 195

Appendix A: An Annotated Bibliography of Parenting Books 209

Appendix B: Tip Sheets for Parents 217

Appendix C: Parent Satisfaction and Counselor Reflection Inventory 229

Appendix D: Master List of Attitudes, Strategies, and Interventions 233

Appendix E: Chapter Checklists 235

Appendix F: Parent Homework Assignments 241

References 261

Author Index 271

Subject Index 275