Beyond the Chuppah: A Jewish Guide to Happy Marriages

Foreword, by Rabbi Harold M. Schulweis ix

Acknowledgments xi

Introduction: Why Is This Book Different from All Other Books? xiii

1. Creating a Positive Jewish Identity That Supports Your Marriage 1

2. Four Key Patterns That Can Harm a Relationship 25

3. Changing Roles, Changing Rules: Men and Women in Conflict 53

4. Communicating Clearly and Safely: The Speaker-Listener Technique 69

5. Problem Solving 97

6. Ground Rules for Handling Conflict 121

7. The Difference Between Issues and Events 133

8. Unfulfilled Expectations and What to Do About Them 157

9. Choosing Commitment 177

10. The Importance of Core Belief Systems: Judaism, Intermarriage, and Community 199

11. Atonement, Forgiveness, and the Restoration of Intimacy 221

12. Preserving and Protecting Friendship 245

13. Overcoming the Fear of Fun 257

14. Thou Shalt Enjoy Sex 265

15. Ancient Wisdom and Modern Insights 283

Notes 285

Resources 291

More Information on the PREP Approach 297

About the Authors 299

Index 301