You Paid How Much For That?!: How to Win at Money Without Losing at Love

Acknowledgments ix

Introduction 1

PART ONE: THE INVISIBLE FORCES

1 Marriage, Money, and Real Life 11

2 The Master Key 33

3 An Introduction to Invisible Forces 48

4 The Full Monty: Exposing Hidden Issues 58

5 Great (and Not So Great) Expectations 72

6 Where Expectations Come from 90

7 Just How Opposite Is the Opposite Sex? 108

Going Deep 125

PART TWO: NOW THAT WE UNDERSTAND, WHAT DO WE DO?

8 Talking Things Out 139

9 Real Solutions for Real Problems 156

10 The Golden Ground Rules 174

11 Accounting for Love 187

PART THREE: SHOW US THE MONEY

Introduction to Money Management 211

12 Getting It Together 217

13 What Do You Have? 226

14 Smart Borrowing, Dumb Debt 240

15 Insurance: How to Protect What You’ve Got 257

16 Taxes: Keeping More of What You Make 277

17 A Penny Saved Is . . . Not Much! How to Control Spending 288

18 Investing: How to Get More 305

PART FOUR: FINDING YOUR TARGET

19 The Heart of Commitment 327

20 Turning Reality into Dreams 343

RESOURCES

Choosing a Financial Planner 367

Our Ten Favorite Books on Money Management and Investment 375

Resources and Training 377

Research and References 379

About the Authors 387

Index 389