Why Can't We Get Along?: Healing Adult Sibling Relationships

Preface xi

Acknowledgements xv

Introduction 1

Part 1: Understanding Sibling Relationships 7

1 Five Myths about Sibling Rivalry 9

2 Acknowledgement is Powerful 27

3 Know Yourself: The Value of Self-Awareness 47

Part 2: Strategies for Healing Sibling Relationships 65

4 How to Talk – and listen to – Your Sibling 67

5 Freeing Yourself from Resentment 91

6 How to Break Destructive Patterns 113

Part 3 Help with Hard-to-Heal Relationships 131

7 “My Sibling Is Just So Selfish!” 133

8 “But I’m Still Angry!” 149

9 Understanding and Helping a Sibling with Mood Problems 163

10 Understanding and Managing Your Sibling with Mood Problems 163

Part 4: Looking to the Future 201

11 Eighteen Ways to Help Your Children Avoid Sibling Struggles 203

Afterword 225

Index 227