Couples Therapy Homework Planner, 2nd Edition

Acknowledgments.

Introduction.

How to Use This Book.

Assigning Tasks.

Debriefing.

Section I Generic Tasks.

Exercise I.1 Stacking the Deck.

Exercise I.2 Personal Pep Talk.

Exercise I.3 Grey Areas.

Exercise I.4 Love-O-Meter.

Exercise I.5 Session Preparation.

Exercise I.6 Feedback Log.

Exercise I.7 Learning the Language.

Exercise I.8 Chart Your Course.

Exercise I.9 Taking Charge of Change.

Exercise I.10 Unpack Loaded and Vague Words.

Exercise I.11 Doing Love and Intimacy.

Exercise I.12 Track the Problems and Solutions.

Exercise I.13 Identify and Validate Your Partner’s Feelings and Points of View.

Exercise I.14 Changing Character Indictments to Action Descriptions.

Exercise I.15 Identify What has Worked and Do More of That.

Exercise I.16 Little Things Mean a Lot.

Exercise I.17 Keep One Eye on the Road.

Exercise I.18 Time Travel.

Exercise I.19 What is Your Map of Love-Land?

Exercise I.20 Acknowledgment.

Exercise I.21 Catch Your Partner Doing Something Right.

Exercise I.22 Let Your Partner Know What Behaviors You’d Like.

Exercise I.23 Just the Facts, Ma’am.

Exercise I.24 Map the Problem.

Exercise I.25 Breaking Patterns.

Exercise I.26 Don’t Get Even, Get Odd.

Exercise I.27 Change the Context.

Exercise I.28 Negotiating Impasses.

Exercise I.29 Go Ape.

Exercise I.30 Letter to the Problem.

Exercise I.31 Going Postal Instead of Going Postal.

Exercise I.32 Lighten Your Load.

Exercise I.33 Can Do!

Exercise I.34 Plant a Tree.

Section II General Issues/Values Conflicts for Couples.

Exercise II.1 Timeout Handout.

Exercise II.2 Anger Log.

Exercise II.3 Setting Boundaries.

Exercise II.4 Biodots.

Exercise II.5 Breathing.

Exercise II.6 Let's Get Physical.

Exercise II.7 Value Your Differences.

Exercise II.8 Accountability.

Exercise II.9 Restoring Trust and Faith When One Partner Has Betrayed the Relationship.

Exercise II.10 Inequities.

Exercise II.11 Feeling Responsible: Who Initiates Things That Need to Be Done.

Exercise II.12 Intimacy.

Exercise II.13 Styles of and Motivation for Arguing.

Exercise II.14 Forgiveness.

Exercise II.15 Money/Financial Conflicts.

Exercise II.16 A Common Destination.

Exercise II.17 Negotiating Socializing Preference and Differences.

Exercise II.18 Creating a Mission.

Section III Specific Problem Areas for Couples.

Exercise III.1 Chronic or Unproductive Arguments.

Exercise III.2 Verbal Abuse.

Exercise III.3 Boxing Clutter to a TKO.

Exercise III.4 Separating Work from Home Life.

Exercise III.5 Planned Spontaneity.

Exercise III.6 A Safe Place for the Traumatic Memories.

Exercise III.7 Chronic Lateness from Work.

Exercise III.8 Set Limits with Consequences.

Sexual Issues and Problems.

Exercise III.9 Mix ‘n’ Match Sexual Menu for Expanding Your Sex Life.

Exercise III.10 Pleasure Teaching Session.

Exercise III.11 Dealing with Impotence.

Exercise III.12 Help for Premature Ejaculation.

Exercise III.13 Initiation Week.

Exercise III.14 Lightening Up about Sexuality and Weight Gain.

Exercise III.15 A Night to Remember.

Family, Stepfamily, and Parenting Problems.

Exercise III.16 Wrestling with the Challenging Task of Parenting.

Exercise III.17 In-Law Problems.

Exercise III.18 Get a Roommate.

Exercise III.19 Circle the Wagons.

Section IV Reproducible Forms and Brochures.

Suggestions for Making Conversations More Productive.

Movies about Couples.

An Appreciative Interview to Celebrate the Anniversary of Your Marriage.

Interview with My Valentine.

Appreciative Inquiry Interview Protocol: Life-Giving Relationships.

Guidelines for Couples’ Communication.

How to Solve Relationship Problems.

Creating or Renewing Intimacy.

Pocket Emergency Guidelines.

Getting Over an Affair.

Dealing with a Partner or Spouse with a Chemical Abuse Problem.

Preventing or Dealing with Violence in a Relationship.

Solving Sexual Problems.

Train Your Therapist.

Relationship Rescue: Tem Methods for Resolving Relationship Crises.

Dealing with the Death of a Child.

Generic Assignment Form.

References.

About the CD-ROM.