Reconnecting: A Self-Coaching Solution to Revive Your Love LifeISBN: 978-0-470-32505-6
Hardcover
272 pages
May 2009
Other Available Formats: E-book
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Acknowledgments ix
Part One The Self-Coaching Phase Working without Your Partner
1. Can I Really Save My Relationship? Becoming a Catalyst 3
2. Why Your Relationship Isn’t the Problem 21
3. Insecurity and Control: Relationship Baggage 35
4. Self-Coaching: Eliminating Your Contribution to the Problem 51
5. Are You a Tiger, Turtle, Elephant, Raccoon, or Peacock? Learning Your Reflexive Personality Style 67
6. Assessing Your Reflexive Personality Patterns 85
7. Sketching Your Self-Portrait 93
8. Self-Talk, Step 1: Separate Facts from Fictions 103
9. Self-Talk, Step 2: Stop Listening to What Hurts You 117
10. Self-Talk, Step 3: Let Go of What Hurts You 129
11. Sketching Your Relationship Portrait: Seeing the Whole Problem 145
Part Two Catalytic Self-Coaching Working with Your Partner
12. Creating a Relationship Vacuum 161
13. Working with Self + Self = Us Portraits 173
14. Coaching Each Other: Risking Trust 185
15. Putting It All Together: Follow-Through 197
16. Love, Infatuation, and Infidelity 213
17. True Love, Great Sex: A Self-Coaching Understanding 225
18. The Ten Essential Principles of Successful Relating 241
Index 253